RMG... sorry... forgot to reply to second part of your post.
My XW avoided any Christian friends. Her family went ape-[censored] over the event. She and I had not yet completed divorce. They put their foot down and demanded she get him out of her life until her D was complete. And keep him away from our kids.
I ended up in treatment a few months later in another city. So didnt do much good. Am sure the party really heated up then.
So whatever. It is all complicated, convaluded and painful. God will do somehting with it. If nothing else, my story of recovery is here for the next yuppie who blows his life out on drugs and booze over a broken heart.
