The one consolation over this is that I do think when the kids are older they will look back and remember who was the stable parent always there for them.
Oh, they absolutely, positively, without a doubt, will. This is exactly what happened to my sister and her kids when she and her X split.
You just keep on being a great mom, loving, supportive and CONSISTENT.
I completly agree. I posted this yesterday onevrhopes thread
Originally Posted By: Steel_Box
I was told by a close friend who grew up with her parents fighting and divorced. The thing that she remembers the most about the whole situation was how her parents handled things differently. She said that no matter how ugly it got between her parents (and it did). He never said a bad thing about his wife to her or her sister. His wife tried to play games and talk bad about him, she tried to turn them against him. She told them about things he did, some of them were true, some weren't. He always took the higher road when it came to them. He even demanded that they show the Ex respect if for no other reason than she was their Mother. My friend knew a lot then, and figured out alot more as she grew up. But, because of how things were handled then, it completely formed the relationships she has with them now. She loved and respected her father despite his many flaws, and has had little to no contact with her mother since she turned 18.
What I took from this is: I had to stand strong for what I believed in and what I wanted. But I would insulate my children from every bit of the sitch that I could. If asked I tried to explain what they wanted to know, but in the simplest terms I could. Luckily my children were young enough that I could do this fairly easily. I did my absolute best not to fight with W when they were around (not that it didn't still happen sometimes). And, I didn't ever discuss what our problems were(details)or bad mouth her around them.
