Hi everyone, T2L, can't believe H showed up. This is going well I pray. Need details why he showed up.
Marisol, I still check things but I have scaled back trying to spy. I know my H spends most nights at OW, but if i obsess about it too long I freak out. I know they tell each other they love each other (never heard it I just know), but it is an addiction and it looks like he is deep into it. I am hoping the longer he is with her that they will start to grate on each other. I pray for this everyday. It hurts but detaching does work for me. Do I feel lost -- yes, depressed - yes, lonely - yes but long as I don't see him it is more manageable.
Remember how I sent the text telling him that he didn't need to call me... Well guess who called me?? I did not pick up. He called up and said I know you texted me that I did not need to call you but wondering what advice you needed (top 5 - admiration), but you don't have to call me back, also tell D15 I miss her and love her. (I didn't call her), then D15 tells me she gets a text from H saying I know you are angry but I miss you. (she didn't call him back), Did this drive him over to the OW's house tonight -- I am sure but will they get along when he is depressed (I hope not). One day at a time. Some days are worst than others.
It is good we are here for each other on this board. I don't know what I would do. Sometimes friends don't understand, and family wants to end your pain by telling you to divorce, but here we understand and support one another.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
