Expose the affair or not!?!?

[lovehimso]

Hi CME66,

I'm new here and really can't offer any suggestions at this point, but I was struck by something you wrote.

This is without a doubt the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. I am watching my best friend self destruct in front of my eyes. Some days the turmoil in her addled mind is oozing out and I vassilate from pained empathy to "serves you right!"

I just wanted to say that I feel the same way. My H is having an affair, but he told me about it on his own (I should have suspected, I knew he was having an EA, but he told me that it had ended. Should have known better...), so I can't really contribute to the discussion at hand. All I really wanted to tell you is that I am learning very quickly here that there are so many people who are going through the same things, and it helps me when I read things like what you wrote because it makes me feel not so "alone". So, I thought, maybe knowing someone else feels the same way would somehow bring you some comfort.

I wish you luck with your situation. It's hard loving someone so much who has caused you so much pain, isn't it?