My H often blows me off and chooses going to the bars alone on week nights. It happens about 1-2 times a week.
It is happening enough for me to feel rejected and really unstable with him.
I love him and we still have a great time together. He seems to really be happy.
I dont know how to get the results that I want. I would like to have a loving H that wants to be with me instead of at the bars. But right now he seems to want both the M and his Freedom. It is starting to kill me. 7 months of piecing and he is still so drunk and has no desire to move back in together.
What should I do different. Usually, I say "No problem and I understand" and let him go do what ever it is that he is out doing with out me. I know I cant control him. But I can change the way I react. It is like he knows it hurts me but he avoids the topic or gets defensive. It has pushed him away before when I said I thought he drank too much and that it wasnt healthy for us to try to reconcile while he is at the bars all the time.
I dont want to push him away again, but I feel like a doormat.
