Any one that has been following my threads knows that my H and I are trying to piece (7 months now)and we are still living apart. My H is still choosing to go to the bars about 2 times a week over spending time together.
He often blows me off when we have plans and he doesnt really want to be around my family and our old friends.
Most nights we are happy spending time together. We stay very busy. But on the nights we are apart, I fall apart.
Am I over reacting. Or am I just crazy for putting up with some of this.
I feel really rejected tonight. My H got wasted on monday night while I was at art night painting. Then the next day he was hungover and spent the day at my place until night when he went to a Kiawanas club meeting and then of course to the bar for a bit before returning later. Then tonight I said I am going to go to trivia night with our old friends and he said he might go. He appeared to be at the bar across the street all night and I think I saw him through the window chatting with a girl. he never came over to say hi. Then on my home he text me that he was just going to stay at his apartment tonight and that he loves me. I said "ok, ILY and have a fun night out". He text back and said he is too drunk to drive. I said no problem I understand and be safe.
Am I putting up with way too much???
I dont like feeling rejected and it happens enough to not feel solid or stable with my H. He doesnt even want to move back into a place together right now after 7 months.
If I am being a doormat, what can I do differently with out pushing him away. I love him and we have a great time together. I need to change something in the way I react but I dont know what or how.
Any comments or advice would be great. Thanks, TIPPER
