Lola, I hope you come back. It took me a long time on this board. People are here for a long time and it takes a while to post sometimes.
Plus, until you are really sure, there isn't a lot of advice to give other that read read read. It sounds to me like you have some MLC in the making but you haven't posted anything other than classic stuff. Is there anything that is a little wierd in his behavior? Really out of the ordinary?
Smurf has a wonderful compilation if you haven't read it yet. And there are some people who have made it to the other side, yellowrose is a good one to read.
Good luck.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.