Piecing consistently for 1 year

[peaceful_spirit]

I've been off the boards for a long time. Not really sure why.

Anyway, like the title of my post says, H and I have been piecing consistently for about a year. Prior to that, we had been piecing for over a year -- very inconsistently.

We seem to be going strong. Although, like any M, it's not without its problems. But we do have a differnt R now. It seems to be one more based on mutual partnership, whereas in the past it was mroe dependant (I was a little needy).

Anyway, they say to keep the positive changes going. Here are the things I've been doing on that front:

- ML often -- by often, I mean 1 or 2 times a week. Not a lot to some, but to me it's plenty.
- Initiating ML at least half of those times (NEVER used to do this... EVER)
- Making sure I have my own life
- Making sure that while I have my own life, I show H in little ways that I like being with him (i.e. watching the Red Sox, buyign him cigars, putting my head on his shoulder once in a while). I jsut try to make sure I don't go overboard on any of that.
- Set up date nights... I try to make sure we're getting out without the kids once a month or so. Often times, it's with other couples. Need a good mix of going out with friends and going out alone.
- Letting things roll off my back more
- Questioning him less (but it still happens once in a while).

ANyway, we are doing well. Just wanted to stop in and say hi.