I know you won't believe this right now, but someday, maybe far off in the future...but it will happen....
Someday your H will reap the consequences SO HARD that you will actually feel sorry for him. I know, I know, you can't even imagine that...but seriously....it will happen.
I had a BIL who left his wife of 15 years for the wife of his close friend. ILYBNILWY, don't think I ever loved you, married too young, blah blah, same-ol' same-ol'. He left his kids out in the cold, yet didn't understand that they would be harmed by this in the least. "The kids will be just fine".
The OW was/is an alcholic.
His wife was devastated as all LBS's are...but after about 6 or 7 (long messy divorce) years she put it all behind her and moved on. She remarried a few years ago and is happy again now.
The kids were not fine. They are still not fine. They are all adults now and are all in counseling trying to understand and deal.
After over 10 years of my BIL insisting that OW was his soul mate, that he'd never loved my SIL, that his kids would be fine...he finally had to throw in the towel and admit that OW was nothing more than a drunken skank.
He had to look in the mirror and realize:
He had thrown away a wonderful wife who loved him way beyond any reasonable amount he should have been given love.
He ruined his children's lives, and their own future lives and relationships.
He had lost everything to the drunk OW...the final straw was her pulling up to his house with 8 cops behind her because she refused to be pulled over (because it would mean a DUI) and she tried to dash into the house before the cops could get out of their cars. A big scene, news crews, etc. got called in. His face was on the news.
Yeah. Soul mate.
He finally had to admit and understand that all that happened was a skank seduced a married man, and that married man was foolish enough to confuse this with love.
Anyway...he did finally realize what he had done, who he had hurt, and what he had lost....
And the pain of having to face this reality nearly sent him into a suicidal state.
His LBW had moved on for so long at that point, that she truly had no more hate in her for him and she felt just pity and sadness that he had brought all these consequences upon himself.
10 YEARS hoosier....wait 10 years. You will see.
Not that it will make you feel any better....but you will see, he will face the consequences.
