Can't I Take Away All This Pain

[Sugar and Spice]

It seems to me that he is using the baby as an excuse to extend his gambling behavior, in a way. Since he can't (won't) decide anything until the baby is born (for no good reason that I can think of), he can keep gambling! It takes a pretty clever mind to come up with that! So, I've got to give hime clever. I'd have to think that if he really wants to come back, he takes real steps to stop the gambling, cut ties with the OW, and acts like he want to come back. So, it seems to me, that for the time being, coming back is not his priority. Maybe when the baby is born that changes, from here I don't see it. No expectations. I hope I'm wrong!

Jeff, you and I believe the same thing. He is not some devious mastermind, so don't even give him points for being clever. This is not rocket science. He is using it as a crutch so he can continue being a loser. I have no expectations at this point, I was merely reporting what I was told. Thats not to say that I believe it. Of course I WANT to, but I know better. Been burnt once too many times on this one.

Corey, I hope you realize that when I'm "swingin' the 2x4's", I'm just being real. I think it's really hard for you to see that and understand it sometimes since you're in the middle of this. The daily ongoing contact with H also adds to the confusion of the fog. Makes detaching that more difficult to achieve, IMO, but it is your sitch, and I understand that you are choosing not to go dark or even dim.

I appreciate you being real and I would rather hear the truth than what someone thinks I want to hear. Your right, the costant contact makes this harder, but to be perfectly honest I don't think my H is in the fog anymore...hes just an addict. He is a gambling junkie and until he is ready to fix that problem within himself, he will continue to be a junkie.

I'm waiting to see what transpires. Things are going to come to a head one way or another, very soon.