It seems to me that he is using the baby as an excuse to extend his gambling behavior, in a way. Since he can't (won't) decide anything until the baby is born (for no good reason that I can think of), he can keep gambling! It takes a pretty clever mind to come up with that! So, I've got to give hime clever. I'd have to think that if he really wants to come back, he takes real steps to stop the gambling, cut ties with the OW, and acts like he want to come back. So, it seems to me, that for the time being, coming back is not his priority. Maybe when the baby is born that changes, from here I don't see it. No expectations. I hope I'm wrong!
I agree with you, Jeff.
Corey, I hope you realize that when I'm "swingin' the 2x4's", I'm just being real. I think it's really hard for you to see that and understand it sometimes since you're in the middle of this. The daily ongoing contact with H also adds to the confusion of the fog. Makes detaching that more difficult to achieve, IMO, but it is your sitch, and I understand that you are choosing not to go dark or even dim.
I truly hope things turn around for all involved.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
