Wow, I didn't realize that it had been so long since the last time I posted. Work has been so incredibly busy for the past 3 weeks. I hardly have time to stop and think.
Things have been okay. H has been a little quiet lately. He's tired of his job. Nothing new on his court/dui situation yet. He goes back to court on Nov. 18th. A few changes that we're looking at making can't be decided until after his court date. I wonder how he likes sitting in limbo?? Probably not much.
H's dad has to go back in for surgery on an enlarged artery. He'll go in soon. The area that is an issue is too close to his kidney to just do a non-invasive procedure. They have to open him up. My BIL works for an express shipping company and can't take any time off in November. H talked about going down himself and taking a week off to help his dad after he gets out of the hospital. And, on the 31st of October was the 4 year anniversary of H's mom's death.
H has been drinking a little more lately, but has been staying home. He did get his license back. He's been talking more about buying a house, talking with D4 about getting a dog and doing more work to make our current place more inhabitable. He got a new cell phone and it's locked. Why? Likely because he knows that Sue snoops and it often makes me wonder if he still tries to contact her. I had a hard time late last week. I panicked a little. H works at 10:00 am on Fridays. He called me after dropping D4 off at 8:30 and told me that he was heading into work early and just chatted with me. I tried to call him at 9:15, 9:30... No answer. I got a hold of him at 11:00. He said that traffic had been bad and that they had a meeting right away when he got to work so he hadn't seen my calls. He hadn't called me back right away because he knew I was at D4's Halloween party. I've had a few panic attacks like that.
D4 is wonderful. She had a great time for Halloween. My parents came to town. My dad had a check up at the Mayo Clinic so they spent the weekend with us. It was fun. I gave my dad tickets to the MN Gopher football game on Sat. and he was in heaven. H went to dinner with us on Friday night and cooked for us on Sat. night and Sunday afternoon.
Just to back up a bit....the last weekend of Oct., H impressed me. We just hung out on Sat. (H worked), but on Sunday, H went to church with us (D4's class sang), took us to breakfast AND went to a kid's Halloween party at our community center with D4 and I. I thanked him a couple of times. On Monday, I emailed again saying thank you.
I'm not quite sure if I'm ready to move on to another forum or not. I feel like I should move or at least poke my head around to see what others are doing to keep things moving in the right direction.
I haven't had a ton of time to do a lot for me lately. Oh wait, yes I did. Not FOR me, but it made me feel good. I volunteered at a food packaging event for Kids Against Hunger. It was fun. Other than that, not much for me. Have to get back to that. Don't get me wrong, I haven't reverted back to doing all for others and nothing for me. I'm still the stronger, changed person I became through all of this.
Well, I really need to run. Busy, Busy, Busy.
Take care- SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
