During our separation, I really felt things were happening out of my control. The often-repeated mantra "you can't change the WAS or their feelings and actions." But I have learned that the choices we make CAN change things. I don't say that just because my D was busted. I honestly believe that what I learned during this process has made me a better person, and that my life had a bright future even without W. We can make our lives and our selves better, even through S and D.
Now that my M is restored, what I learned and the changes I made within myself can now be applied to my R with my loving, beautiful, and darling wife. Our days to come is what we make them. Where our future lies is where we take it. We are living through something better than a second honeymoon right now. It is the rediscovery of our love for each other, an appreciation for what we nearly lost, and a commitment from us both to do the work necessary to ensure that what we went through this past year will never happen again.
It saddens me to see the struggles my friends here are still going through. But I know that the strength of character I see on these boards will create a wonderful future for you all, as long as you continue the work on yourselves and to live your lives to their full potential.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
