I kind of fear their reaction because they're a messed up family too.
I think a lot of my W's problems stem from her mother. Her mother is one of those people that just doesn't know how to show any sort of emotion other than anger and she's not the best listener. She also values cats more than people. A problem I had with my W and her cat. The cat got more attention and affection than I did.
Thing is, my W left the cat behind and then got an apartment where she can't have the cat. This told me that she wanted away from me so badly that she was willing to sacrifice the cat. Something I would have never guessed. It also makes me wonder if there really is any hope for us.
Me 43: Her 34 M 08/22/2005 Son born 12/31/2006 Suspicion of EA 10/10/2008 EA confirmed 10/11/2008 WAW 10/13/2008