W Health problems, supplement solutions?

[VAnot4lovers]

Background: My wife and I have been married for 18 years. Her health has always been a little iffy, and not quite four years ago, she came down with some kind of bronchitis that left her with asthma. Decreased activity and steroids for the bronchitis and asthma added about 40 pounds, and the doctor says she will probably develop diabetes in a few years. All of these problems aggravated her existing allergies, an arthritic condition, and severe PMS. She also became clinically depressed.

Consequently, she is on a variety of prescription medications for these conditions, including the weekly form of Prozac for the PMS and depression. Dropping that is a non-starter; the PMS and depression came back too strongly when we tried switching to the generic Prozac vs. the brand name. She reluctantly asked her doctor if there was anything that could be done about the negative libido effects of the Prozac and was told that there was not.

Because of all this, our love life has taken a real nosedive. In general, there is about a 36-hour "window" each month (always at the same point in her menstrual cycle) when she might be interested, assuming that she is otherwise not feeling ill. The rest of the time, her level of desire is essentially zero. If that weren't bad enough, except for that same period (and to some degree even then) her ability to become aroused is also reduced, so even if she was intellectually not opposed to trying, it doesn't work.

I have always had a significantly higher drive than she has, but as far as she is concerned this is "my problem," and it is up to me to deal with it. I haven't found a way to have her really understand how much this hurts, although I'm sure she would say the same about her feeling "used" or because "sex is all I ever want" from her. We're trying to work through everything, but it's really hard because she simply doesn't want to deal with this area. All this has put a real strain on our marriage.

Here then is the real question: As we try to work through all this, is there anything in the way of supplements, etc. that actually works to increase libido? I am honestly not looking for a "quick fix" here, but for a way to reduce the systemic strains so we can work through everything else more easily.

On one level, what I've been able to find tracks with the information in SSM: a form of testosterone might be the logical first choice, but her spectrum of health problems seems to rule that out. From what I've read, there seems to be some degree of real, scientific evidence for L-Arginine and perhaps damiana; can someone confirm or deny that those have some proven benefit in increasing female desire and/or arousal? Is there anything else for which there is objective evidence? Thanks!