It's never too late for someone to step up and own his part of "wrong doings" and his mistakes. It is never too late to just say "I am sorry, I f@cked up, was too weak, too selfish, too immature to stand for our family and marriage" and show remorse with actions even after a divorce. Maybe a gesture like that would take the anger away and open up communication channels that will help co-parenting. But IMO what it would really do, would be to justify the years together. It is really bad to look at your "ex other half" and wonder "who the h$ll is this guy? Where are all the good qualities I saw in him, once". It's pretty easy to judge someone for being bitter and angry and even unfair (rightly so if you ask me but who cares what I think)when this someone was the one forced to accept YOUR life changing decision and used this board to vent and complaint and try to understand why all this happened thinking it is a safe place to do so. Trying to look superior when you caused the mess and asking from the other "involved parties" to do the same, is ... easy (to say the least). cw68, keep walking... Love K
