If you can forgive your wife for a PA then you can and have to get through this.
If you cannot, then there is no reason to continue. Honest.
She is going to lie, don't dwell on it. Get through it. Suffer but do not be a martyr.
Sexual tension? Jerk off. That's blunt, but guess what? Not nearly the tension you have in bed with her.
Your pain is exquisite right now, but not unique. The PA is a make it or break it for you.
Listen to me on this. DO NOT ATTACK (verbally or physically, if you are incredbily stupid) the OM. She will defend him and you will have pushed her to him. Your fault if you do. Your fault, sucks don't it? Life isn't fair.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
