Hope - all the family knows about both affairs. Both women worked for the company he was at. He has since left the company but the 2nd OW still works there. The saddest part was that the whole company knows about him and her. Its almost like they joked about it. I was very disturbed by it because I knew all those people from company parties and some had even been to our house. I don't know OW parents although I know they live in Colorado which is where he went last month with her for a weekend.
Faith - I think its a good sign too...I hope she really shows him who she truly is. My guess is she will find another man very soon because that is the type of person she is. I know for a fact she has been with more than one man from where she works and my H knew about it too!!! When she realizes that my H is not going to become the millionaire he always talks about she will leave him. She isn't going to keep paying for his bills or buying him dinner every night.
There are just so many factors to consider for this R. Love isn't everything. He left me financially ruined. He has yet to really reach out to his daughter. He has lied. He has failed at everything he has tried. I feel like if I let him back he would push me back again whereas now I am finally starting to see the light and catch up on my bills, save money, and start to do things I wasn't able to do before. This is a battle for me. I love him unconditionally and I know I always will I just don't know if being with him is the best thing for me anymore. But if he were to come over tomorrow and make a pass at me I know I would give in and that's the crazy part!!!!! WHY!!!
I'm sure some of you feel the same way. Its like being stuck in limbo and not knowing which door to take to get out of it.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
