(((Thinking of their own hurt, pain, guilt and not in a place to take care of their loved ones.)))
This is something that my H shared with me after he did return...he really was lost in his own pain and loss of self-worth...he told me he couldn't love me because he didn't love himself...the OW...well we all know that is the "feel good drug" of choice...they are reaching out to feel "something" anything really...and the high from that carries them for a while...but like I told my H...one day he would be sober and have to face himself in the mirror...and I hoped he could stand to look at who he was...you can't stay drunk forever and "things" don't bring you happiness no matter how many things you aquire...
It is sad and heartbreaking, yes...but you do what you have to in order to hold it all together for the kids...you GAL and yes, call on your best friends...eventually you get through it...and hopefully with the ending you want...either way...you will be stronger and better!
