{{{{{{{{{{{Marisol}}}}}}}}}}}, you were really missed. Twinhope and JGrind have not been around also. Glad you had a good move. I still have boxes from almost 2 years ago. LOL
So H is pushing the big D. Don't make it easy for him. You have to ask yourself -- do you want to be done. We decide they don't. It is a rough road, and I question myself every day. Should you be done? I can't answer that for you. I want all of our marriages reconciled. That is what I pray for everyday.
When I look that at your timeline your H had the first A in April and then takes up with 2nd A in august. It has only been 3 months with the new A. Have you exposed the A to his family/friends. Do you know her parents?
As far as the party -- you have every right to go. H was trying to put you on a guilt trip. You can go and hold your head high and have dignity. H is the one with the dirty little secrets.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
