Trying2Live-Post #3

[marisol35]

Hi everyone!

Sorry for not jumping on sooner but I just moved this weekend and am finally situated in my new place with my D16 and my cousin who also lives with me. He is 17 and goes to school with my D16. His mom is my aunt and she lives in Puerto Rico right now and is trying to get transferred over here but is having a hard time doing so. Not to mention she is very ill right now so things are not going well for her.

It took me a bit to catch up on everyone! I am glad to see everyone is getting through their situations one day at a time.

I missed you all!

As for me well...on Friday (Halloween) is when I moved and I get a text from H asking about the D paperwork. I'm just like why does he have to do this today. He knew I was moving and would be very busy and he just had to try and ruin the excitement of me trying to move forward. I didn't let it get to me. I just ignored it and didn't respond. A few hours later he tries calling. I ignore the call. Then about an hour later while the movers are getting everything into the truck I text him saying "I'm really busy right now did you need something?" His response was "no...moving today?" I say "yes...very tired" He says "ok..I will talk to you later"

AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! I was so frustrated....anyways...I got past it and just kept working. It was a very long and exhausting weekend but needless to say all I have left is hanging stuff on the walls to make the place my own.

Then yesterday he starts up again. He calls while we are eating dinner. I ignore the call. About 20 minutes later I text him..

M - Got done eating whats up
H - Need to talk to you about the divorce and the quinceniera this weekend
M - i am doing briana's (the birthday girl) makeup and going to the church and reception
H - ok...juan (his friend) wanted me to go but i probably won't...what about the divorce papers. I received a notice that we need to act or they will dismiss my claim.
M - pls dont feel like u cant go if i am cause frank jr is your godson. i know them through you.
H - they said they will have to officially serve you if we don't respond...do you want me to see if they will redraft the paperwork or do you want them to serve you and then go through the legal crap?
H - i know that but i'm not going to cause a scene for briana...what about the papers?
M - im sorry you feel that there would be a scene? i would not do that 2 her or anyone i cared about. i would hope you would think differently of me. its your decision of course. as for the papers, im not ready. do what you need to do.
H - well since you won't respond i guess i will have to legally serve you...i guess we will just make this as hard as possible!
H - ok...guess we are doing it the hard way...and i wouldn't be coming to the party alone...yes that would cause a scene..so im not going...just another friend i lost to you
M - loosing ur friends has nothing to do with me. You did that on your own from the choices you have made.
H - No!! you like to contact my family and friends and stay as close to them as possible!! you always have!! dont give me that BS!!
M - the only person i have contacted is ur cousin to help me change the battery in the truck cause my dad couldn't do it & that was weeks ago. I don't contact anyone. There is no reason to. your mom will always be in my life for your daughter but i don't talk to her about u at all. so don't flatter yourself ok!
M - lori (briana's mom) asked me months ago before all this to do her makeup. what was i suppose to tell her? im not going to lie. but dont worry i don't tell people all the details. people make there own choices.
M - if this is what you truly want there is nothing i can do. only you can make that decision. only you know what is best for you.

And that was basically it...I know I back slid a bit in this conversation but I couldn't help it. I didn't mention anything about the OW though. I kept it between him and I.

So what is your take ladies? It appears he is dead set on making this D happen. Do any of you see hope for me? I do not contact him at all. I have been dark for a while. It was only 3 weeks ago when we had our encounter and then he text me 2 weeks ago at 145am asking if I had gone out.

My hunch is that OW is pressuring him saying she cant be in a relationship like this or that she is having second thoughts so he is doing whatever he can to keep her.

Should I just be done? I'm with many of you where my heart says no but my mind says yes. Although when he does stuff like this my love bank depletes for him and I lean towards moving on versus fighting for this marriage. I feel like I would be fighting for it alone.