I've been on this site for a little while now, and it still amazes me when I come across yet another person with the same " issues " as myself. I know this is what these boards are for, but I still think to myself, wow!
Anyway............. I read your thread and I wonder if you have talked to her about that " night " where she said she was in the mood and you missed it. Is she open to talking with you, or does she shy away from it like most do here? I wonder if you told her how you would LOVE to have her initiate, and that you simply just didn't pick up on the signs that she wanted to ML.
I agree with DQ with the sister aspect of all this. You may not have any issue with it, but I'm also thinking that maybe your W does. You even said she calls them " trash " I'm wondering if her lack of enthusiasm is somewhat linked to what she has in her mind about sex because of her sister and how she views her past. Just an observation but it might be one of the larger reasons she just had the attitude of > get it over with. ??
Now the real work will be to teach her that S between a H and W is exactly as Bagheera said......... >The primary purpose of sex is to bind the man and woman together as a couple in pleasure, in love, and in a level of physical and emotional intimacy that nothing else can surpass, and also its ok to have fun with it!!
My 2 cents, and wanted to see how things were going.
