Whether or not to check-in with H

[WCW]

Hi Thinking, congrats on your 180 of doing your own thing and not pursuing. He must be noticing if he is talking to MIL about it.

He will have his own version of whatever you do, so just try and make sure you are aware of your body language. Also go the extra mile to make eye contact and smile when you are talking about anything.

About slamming things - brings back memories of when H told me how mean I was for slamming the door in his face ALL of the time. I asked what he was talking about, I don't slam doors. He said yes, that every night when we walked in the house he would stop to feed the dogs and when I went in the house I slammed the door in his face. I didn't, all I did was latch it so it wouldn't swing open before he came in! But, the fact is that was his interpretation of my actions.

My question is, if we don't speak about these things, how will he know that I still want to be married?

Try thinking about the saying that actions speak louder than words. Then be very aware that your actions show love and kindness from a distance for now.