Mike - I think you replied as I did, see my last response to MM.
I do understand, but do you not think she is playingon me spending time with the boys to suit her ? Do you not think, whatever her reasons, it is a way for her to have more of the cake she has been eating for 9 months.
It should only be another 2 or 3 months now til I get a place and we have mediation on Monday, so I will tell her I will not decide til after mediation next week, but I am not comfortable in that house so would rather not spend a night there.
I think it makes no difference how much "cake she eats" if you are done?? I mean if you are truly done then what does that matter to you. If you are truly detached from her then why concern yourself with who she is doing??
and if she has been "eating cake" for 9 months..whether you are there or not makes no difference..she will find a way to do it no matter what..
I say decide if you want to see the boys extra time or not..in surroundings that are somewhat familiar..you don't have to sleep in that bed..sleep on the couch..sleep in the boys bed..have a camp out on the floor..
you're in a tough sitch not having your own place..I figure this is an opportunity for you..to have them overnight..wake up with them..put them to bed..
up to you..do what's best for YOU and those BOYS..she is an afterthought..
