MLC PTSD: Is there any connection?

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I decided to post here and tell a little about my sitch because I want to make sure I am not grasping at straws. So any input would be appreciated


I will try to make this as brief as possible.

My H and I separated a little over a year ago, after he said he loved me but had nothing left to give me. We had a tense few months prior, I had lost my job, was depressed because I could not find another. I had been at my new job for two weeks. I looked in his email that night (which was something I rarely did, never without permission) and found pix of him and OW. That ended a few months after it started.

Since that time, I have gotten: its your daughter's fault. Its may be my fault because I am a "yes" man and now I have to say no. I don't love you but I care for you as a friend. I only married you because I felt backed into a corner. I tried to talk to you but you didn't listen. I told you our marriage was in trouble (yeah...no he didn't). This came as a complete shock.

He has made comments such as "the only female in my bed is the dog." "I sleep on the futon most nights because I am too tired to make it to bed after work". H is a child protective services investigator.

He wants a divorce, but wants me to file because I am a paralegal and could do the paperwork without hiring an attorney. Told him no.

I asked for counseling, but he said it is too late for that.

The latest, about two weeks ago, is that he doesn't think the changes will stick, we will go back to the way we were, and that D12 is happy now and he doesn't want to upset her world.

Asked again if I would file. Told him no, he said he would file. Still hasn't.

Are these the makings of an MLC?