Wow great post, He doesn't pull any punches! After reading this and other post I feel that perhaps I really need to set the deadline regarding getting the separation done. We have been slowly sorting out finances etc. but now that she sees she doesn't have any money now she has been floating the idea out that we live together to save money. I can't trust her right now because she has been lying about alot. I guess my next step in GAL is to really let go and show her that I am serious and that this is her decision so she must face it. My DB coach gave me some guidelines so that I don't make it vindictive and that it can still leave the door open. My in-laws as I said think she needs a kick in the a#@ and has "lost the plot". I stressed to them that no matter what I will still be willing to work through things if she comes around.
I guess I feel if we are separate she will have the space to miss me.
Last night she was nice to me as well as this morning which kills me but at the same time she is with OM. She said she was having a friend over for dinner tomorrow and I could join them. I didn't really respond but am going to tell her thanks for the offer but I am going out with a friend for a drink and leave it at that. A 180 I think because I normally would say yes as it would be nice to spend time with her. But as my coach said I should create mystery.
Jeff
Last edited by Jeff3; 11/05/0802:28 AM.
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June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
