Thank you so much for the insight and advice. I really appreciate your support. I was just reading your thread to get caugt up on your situation. I would like to offer you some of the help you have been offering me but I do not have much advice right now. But please know that I am here to support you, too.
I am trying to take an Israeli martial art called Krav Maga. It is taught to law enforcement personnel and it is an offensive practice. I figure that if I can learn to disarm someone, and break a bone or two while I am at it, I can stop being afraid to go out at night by myself and can work a little harder at developing a social life. As you can imagine, Friday and Saturday nights are pretty lonely.
My major in undergrad was Philosophy and I studied a lot of African philosophy during that time (along with the classics). I am very interested in the book you recommended and will look for it this weekend. It's funny, when I would get really upset about something and my H would try to comfort me, he would jokingly say, "Zen, baby. Zen." I guess he was on to something.
On to your other advice. I think I can handle being upbeat and pleasant and no R talk (though I think H is going to think I am full of sh!t - given that all of our meetings have been intense, tense and R-talk intensive), I have no clue how to be mysterious. Pathetic, I know. I am fighting for my R, you'd think I could muster up some feminine mystique, but I really haven't a clue how to do it.
If we cannot have R talk, and I am to be mysterious about what I have been doing all this time, what can we talk about? I am not trying to be daft or sarcastic. I am genuinely asking how to do this.
