{{{Tx}}} I know, it just breaks your heart when your kids are hurting.And we just can't seem to understand why these WAS could walk away just like that. They think explaining things to the kids makes it all right to do it and squares things with them but don't REALLY understand the hurt, loneliness and pain they inflict on others. We LBS think if they only truly understand this pain then they would stop. Because we think that underneath all this unacceptable behavior, they MUST BE decent people underneath. We have known them for years and they have not hurt us in the past so they MUST BE good, right?

But I have found that we need to release these expectations. Yes, they do feel guilty but they can't help themselves for whatever reason. They are all in a selfish place right now. Thinking of their own hurt, pain, guilt and not in a place to take care of their loved ones. We, the LBS, not only get the shock of our lives but then have to step up and nurse everyone else's pain. Then on top of that have to be ultra understanding to the WAS and then cross our fingers, get a life and hope one day they will change their minds. It's totally unfair and it's a heck of a lot to ask.

{{Tx}} it's time to get the women of your life together. These women will support you no matter what. These are your mother, sisters, girl friends, aunts, cousins, best school friends, in-laws (if applicable) etc. Men can come and go but it's the women in your life who will stick with you. Put all your loving energy in your kids and developing these women relationships. Good luck for this weekend!


Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'