Gypsy, sorry to hear of your frustrations. It is a change in lifestyle because 2 residences must now be supported with no immediate increase in funding. Just know that you can rebuild and it will take time.
I hate to break the facts if you have not read, but statistically wise, guys have fared much better financially after a divorce than women.
I would think that your longer marriage means that your H needs to pay for a much longer time of spousal support.
