It had been building since yesterday. Every time I wanted to say something to her, she would get all pissy and huffy. She has this talk radio "addiction" and if I try to talk to her while she has her ear buds in, I'm never sure if she is listening to me or not. Sometimes she'll have only one in and hears that you are talking at her (I think like Charlie Brown's parents) but never really hears what you said. This morning before we went to the polls I wanted to tell her something funny, she grunted and didn't seem interested and then when I said "Oh forget it" wanted me to tell her what it was. By that time I was pissed. "Who wants to talk to someone that doesn't want to listen?" She finally got me to tell her and apologized.
Got back from voting and then all afternoon any time I came near her she would rip the ear buds out each time I got anywhere near, even if I wasn't saying anything. I could tell she was annoyed at me. It hacked me off too. Finally I decided to get the hell out of the house. No sense in staying around where I wasn't wanted. Found her and said I'd be back later. "Where are you going?" OUT! I can tell you don't want me around so I'm going to get out of your way for a while.
Somehow she starting talking and we had one of our rehashing conversations where I repeat all of the things I've been saying for months now and so does she.
About the only thing "new" that came out was that I have always been a "toucher" and she has never been one. "It's not in my nature to always want to touch. That's the way you are but not me." I guess that is the problem between us then? If we are incompatible then what are we doing together?
She went on to say that she is trying very hard to change. To this I said the changes have to be permanent, they can't be a temporary thing until I get over my wanting to be "all touchy and feely". If we can't learn to meet each other's needs and feel loved the way in which we feel it most then how do we move forward?
We hugged and it felt like maybe our points got across to each other. I still left because I needed to just think on my own. I went for a drive around the lake and was back about 2 hours later.
Like you Diane, I think she will do anything to get me off of her back... Anything except to make real and lasting changes to meet my need for a "real" loving physical relationship.
Jayce - I'll look into that KY egg shape thing. Sounds like that would be ideal. Now just to convince her of that.
