I wonder the same thing IRMAT.... if these couples really show eachother how its supposed to be or if they take eachother for granted. I want to tell them sometimes too. There's a girl at work that's always insulting her H. Reminds me of me before H left. I feel badly for the H and tell her to ease up, but I guess they have that type of relationship/agreement, so okay.
Yea that is sad...I know of one myself..... my daughter... I see me in her and things she says and does reminds me so much of the things I said and did to my husband....I tell her that I see me in her and she doesn't understand I guess... I tell her to love and respect each other before it is too late....but we all do what we think is the right thing to do.
I only want for her and her husband to be spared this heartache...but all I can do is put her and her marriage at the foot of the cross ......and ask God to keep it safe....away from the grasp of the enemy...
Be Blessed In Jesus Name
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
Hey Cinders, Just checking up on you and seeing how you are doing.
Irmat,
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I see lots of couples everyday ... and I wonder if they ever say to each other how much they love each other.... or just a kiss... or a glance from them.....
Lots of people take these little things for granted...i wish we could tell them to please pay attention to your marriage because it could be taken from you literally overnite..
I think all of us did this before the bomb, we are human and take things for granted.
I personally think we all contributed to the demise of our Marriages in one way or another.
One of the things I have tried to do is to not allow myself to slip back into old habits. I want the changes I have made to stick.
Irmat, don't lose hope, but also do not lose yourself in your Husband's MLC. Keep working on yourself and make yourself into the very best person you can be.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I like what has been written so far...food for thought, for many. I agree with BND that we all contributed to the demise of our marriages in one way or another !
I too have changed many things and like the changes I have made for myself !
I had the GREATEST time today for Halloween ! We stopped by several people who invited us in for wine and drinks even ! It was so great to do this as a family ! I looked great as a witch !
The kids looked fabulous all dressed up !!! And H...well, he didn't dress up and I told him he was a party pooper !
I was in a great mood, made yummy foods, and was very happy allround. I don't seem to let H or his life affect me as much whenever he is around me. He's even starting to discuss the ow with me at times...I just casually listen and don't comment much. It's weird, but I feel myself letting go even more than I have, I am starting to feel what real detachment is. Good ! Finally !
So after spending a little over 3,5 hours here with us, and having had some wine and great conversation at the neighbours, H left to go home and the kids and Icleared up and went to bed !
Now I sit here thinking back at a wonderful Halloween night.
xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Went to the parent teacher evening today at school. Alone, because H called to cancel this morning. It was for S5 in kindergarten. All was well, and the teacher loves him and was happy with him.
I sent H a TM telling him. He texted back saying "isn't S5 a wonderful little guy!?" I sent a TM back saying "Yes he is, we've done this really well together, all of the kids for that matter". He wrote back "Definitely!"
Funny how close to him I feel at times and at others we are leading such separate lives. I notice our history together more and more as time passes. Yet I also feel him slipping away...
I've been reading many ways to pray, and what me must and must not expect from it. Important is to keep your faith. Believe in HIM, for HE believes in YOU !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Just wanted to say Hi. Yes, it sounds like you are detaching well. Glad you enjoyed your Halloween and spent some time with your H.
Stay strong.
Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
