Trying2Live-Post #3

[AllW8SBF]

Hey T2L I'm wondering if you could answer this first questions and everyone else can answer the rest.

Now waiting on answers about which book should I start first - SAA or DR/DB?

Do I give hello and good bye hugs, or kisses on the cheek forhead?


Well last night was semi pleasant. H told me about this OW that he was trying to get a date with that was well these woman are all a joke - 1) to be after a man who is separated but living with W and won't be leaving anytime soon. 2)he's pathetic because it's very obvious these woman are not interested or there is not much to pick from so the ones he gets a chance with he literally grovels. This one chick left a message saying her friends took her phone from her and don't think he's good for her and while leaving the message her friend is in the background saying "not you buddy", and she says hopefully we can do this again later. And he has the nerve to tell me he's going to sweat her out! WHAT A JOKE - Sweat her out she's not interested! GOD there are tons of these stories, I can tell their all look warm to him and there is one that seems to be hot to the point of obsessive which I can tell is getting on his nerves.
So anyway he has a sitch at work that this chick is acting childish so I say what is with you, you have teenage girl magnet, every girl acts like their in High School.

I went out to my dance class again, little did I know it was an 1hr & 1/2 vs 1hr. But cool, I actually went up to the teacher to ask for her to show me a step I was having problem with and usually I feel ignored in general. Well she tried getting out of other talks to come talk to me so that felt great.

Then I went home and practiced some more and he came up and knocked on the door and asks - Did I keep you from this? You never did this before. I'm like no, I kept myself from this and I'm enjoying myself now. He just stared at me, again like he wanted answers with his eyes.

Later he asked hey once you have all these moves what do you plan to do with them? I said I've got places to use them. With a Smile I wish I would have winked and I wish I would had a better smile with it but still.

Holidays will be tough ladies but we need to focus on positives, much like our wise T2L girl suggests.

TXMom - please make plans when kids go to stay at H's. And read some positive inspiration, blog, come here, whatever.
Hey think of it this way - you don't have to arrange a babysitter!

Hope I'm with you 2009 will be better no matter what side of the coin we end up on. And as long as we focus on us we will be better than ever.

Oh forget who it is but someone is thinking it's the end because they moved out - well H moved out 4 years ago, (identical problem as now - some woman made him do tricks so he did) well he came back. now bad part is I didn't really try to fix those problems then, I masked them put tape on the vase but never really remedied them. So if I get the chance this time I am not going to stop.

How long did it take everyone to vote - me at 6AM before doors open 44 people in front of me took 35 minutes.
Girl here it took her 45min and only 15 in front of her.

Hope much like how your going through this and feeling this pain, your daughter is too, and I think she is old enough for you to pass on some of your coping or at least as you said, he's in a fog and won't hear a word she says especially if ANY of it is relatively SANE WORDS. And this goes for OW also.

You know H has specifially told me that OW did these things for him - gave all her attention to him, like I said sitting towards him in the car while he drives, sitting on his lap at other times. Calling him baby, sweetie, honey - I never did any of this, and I do notice when he talks to these other woman he does end or begin the calls with honey, sweetie, etc.
So I have been starting to do these things GOOD? Bad? Let me know.

Please most important question - DO I start reading DB/DR or SAA first - which one??????