Hey T2L, I have to say I give you credit. If I saw hickie on my H I would brand it on him with a iron! Of course what you should have done is branded him and let H bring your mark home to OW. Pretty funny. But you handled it and handled it well!
Your right -- forget the old and bring in the new. Of course I think it is easier to say because I have not seen H since Friday. It bugs me but it is easier on my soul by not seeing him and having him stir up all my emotions.
Holidays I think are bumming most of the people on this board. My H could have at least waited till January (joke everyone), but like anything this to shall pass. 2009 will be better for all of us no matter what happens. We have bad days but each day is making us stronger.
Went to the gym at lunch and I have been increasing weights. I am into my 6th week and I am noticing changes in my old body. I have been picking up some new clothes here and there just to get by but today I put my pants on and they look like clown pants in the legs. I am trying to hold off and then buy one new outfit in a smaller size for work that I can wear for one of my meetings that H goes to. This is one of my biggest 180's. I have had a weight problem most of my life and this is the thinnest I have been in about 15 years. I know it has really been surprising my H and he keeps asking if I am still going to the gym during lunch. In contrast H is putting on what I am losing and a bloated face to go with it! He was always the better looking one and I am sure he does not like it. My only wish is that OW is gaining weight right along side of him from the drinking and fast food habits that H has.
I am going to try and enjoy the holidays no matter what. I am visualizing that my H who will be spending Xmas with OW will have a terrible time and maybe this is what will turn him around. Keep praying.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
