Whether or not to check-in with H

[ThinkingItThru]

Something has been bothering me lately. Several weeks ago I told H that I was giving him his freedom and I would leave him alone, but I would be here to talk when/if he was ready.

Since then I've been doing my own thing and I haven't been pursuing him at all. My question is, if we don't speak about these things, how will he know that I still want to be married? That I'm not angry with him. He's coming up with all the wrong ideas by interpreting my actions. Last weekend I told him I was going out for a hike and I didn't know when I'd be back. A couple hours later my MIL called to asked if I was OK. "Of course, why?" Because he told her that I was angry, that I was slamming things around, and that I stormed out of the house saying that I didn't know when I'd be back. This doesn't jive with my feelings or attitude at the time at all. I fear that if he's interpreting my wishes and desires through his internal filters and he's getting them all wrong.

But I don't want to initiate a R discussion with him. And he's not exactly jumping into conversations with me about his feelings about the R or the future.

I'm leaving him alone right? I don't want to give him a mixed message that I'm leaving him alone and then start up with saying that we should do more things together. I just don't see how we're going to be friends again if we don't do things together as a couple.

Confused...