How to treat a WAW when I've stopped chasing her?

[dday101798]

Hang in there brother!

Yes, she is thinking of herself right now, that's the way it goes. I know I have a lot of questions and don't understand much yet, I'm learning all this out too, but, if you want to make this work out in the end, STAND GROUND. Let it roll off, she wants a phone, pfft, let her have her phone. She is seeing sunny green grass on the other side. It won't be until she gets there and a cloud comes overhead will she realize the grass isn't there.

If I get the time, I will post up a link to my initial thread in the necomers sections. I went through a lot of ups and downs in that thread much like yours. Even my thread here shows a significant change towards things getting better over the past few weeks.

Here's what you need to be prepaired for: the reality she may be with someone else, I haven't gone through the last few pagees here but I know you have had a hunch of a OM possibility. I can assure you now, if and when you do find out for sure, that will be THE WORST pain you will ever feel. For the first few weeks I cried so hard that after a while my mouth was side open there should have been screams for miles, but yet no sound.

This is where you need to detach IMO. I know you said you have been doing that in the beginning, but detach now before you emotions get the better of you and make things real bad.

And in my experience, I made the mistake you did of going to the couch. My W has told me flat out, I might as well dropped kicked her out the door because that's what sent her packing.

You have one advantage, she's still there, I'd be looking for a way to keep it as comfortable as possible before that changes.