Hi, limbo land is awful isn't it. I just had a couple of random thoughts as I read your post.
You are giving him an awful lot of power. You are going to wait 6 months, see how HE feels, then make your decision. That seems sort of backwards.
You can't pursue him, but you can sure reward him nicely whenever he gets close to you. What are his love languages ? If you start filling your own love bucket, & his, things have to get better. Especially since you guys are still polite, & having sex.
If I were you, right now I'd focus on being the best wife possible. I'd do all those things he always wanted me to, but I was too tired, or didn't feel like it. I wouldn't make a big production out of it, I'd do it subtle, gradual. I wouldn't chase him, you are right, he would run, anybody would. But, you can sit still with a nice big sandwich & wait for him to move near you & offer it to him.
People change their feelings when being around that person makes them feel good. Try treating him like a new boyfriend for a few weeks, & see how he responds.
Since you are still having sex, that's a perfect time to tell him that you realize he is not happy, & that you'd like him to be happy again soon. Ask him what he wants in the R.
Can you guys talk openly like that ?
take care limbo is horrible I agree
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
