I don't want to beat a dead horse here, but....Whether he likes it or not, he is in a marriage. It is not so easy to get out of a marriage as to just decide you no longer want it. And he keeps saying that he hasn't even done that.
There are many on this site who advocate the muzzle technique for holding a marriage together. I am opposed to that. First, for the reason stated above, both parties have feelings with equal right to be heard. And secondly, because the LBS is already in pain, and muzzling that person will make it worse. Eventually, he or she is likely to explode in anger. And that is really bad for the vestige of a relationship. The key to marriage is communication. Unhappy people may not have great communication, but muzzling is not the solution.
