Well, this is an enlightening thought. My situation is different in that I got left, and H never lacked for self-esteem, but he definitely didn't take a role of responsibility in the marriage, which forced me to, which set up a whole different dynamic. I always felt like his mother in a way, which didn't make me feel like his lover for sure.
You might like to read some of the works by David Daeda. His premise is that there needs to be healthy masculine-feminine polarity in a relationship for the attraction to remain. Some of that means male leadership and direction. A woman should feel able to relax into her husband's strength.
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And I'm here to testify--folk will kick you when you're down, they will walk on you if you act--or even feel--like a doormat. It's the way you carry yourself, or the vibes you send out--the subtle body language we're not even aware of.
