I just wanted to interject something here. It might be so that in modern American culture the woman controls the relationship, but I believe this facet of modern relationships to be un-spiritual. I'm not knocking off what women should do in a relationship, but I do believe that a man is supposed to lead - if he is a spiritual, godly and just partner/spouse. I know most men don't fit that description, which is sad. And I also respect when a woman says "no", any man should respect and honor that (heck, maybe we wouldn't have so many divorces!)
All I'm saying here is that marriage, as well as relationships, is supposed to be a sacred thing, not just a piece of paper as I thought it to be at one time.
What does your gut tell you to do BH?
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~