[quote=theoden] And I'm here to testify--folk will kick you when you're down, they will walk on you if you act--or even feel--like a doormat. It's the way you carry yourself, or the vibes you send out--the subtle body language we're not even aware of.
I've seen that too, but my thinking is that these people in some way are not completely healthy. I am maintaining my boundaries and have regained my self-confidence, but it's still almost a continual effort with my H to prevent him from being rude and treating me like a doormat anyway. I don't think a healthy R should be that way,not so much work all the time to prevent yourself from being hurt. Karen
