I know. I love this board. But I just wanted to see some info in MLC. I still cannot get over how hateful these people were!
Even if H and I don't work out, I don't ever want to be that hateful!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
That totally stinks. What a rotten attitude to have. I can understand the hurt and anger as I've been there for a while but honestly, what good does that do? All they are doing is hurting themselves. A quote - it's like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the person you are angry at to die.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Exactly. I have never seen so much anger and animosity. I figured going to this site might give me some insight on my sitch since I have really come to believe my H is showing the exhibits of an MLC, and all they kept asking is what I am doing for myself! Well, heck, I am doing alot for myself. My life is very full right now, and I am happy most of the time. But it doesn't mean I don't miss my H and still love him. It doesn't mean I don't hope we can work through this. It just made me so mad that on a website that is supposed to be supportive, they were downright mean. cie la vie...I am not going anywhere else but here.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Have you read through the MLC threads here? That is where I headed after newcomers and found a lot of good information and shared a lot of insights with others.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I am going to start reading over there. I was forwarded a "joke" MLC...an explanation of sorts and my H fit every single one of the criteria. He is so wishy washy, one day talking about D, the next acting like we never had the conversation. The best thing I ever did was to go dark, or really really dim because I still speak with him on occasion although I limit those. It has given me time to gain some insight.
I still love him very much, and I don't think that will ever change, but I also am beginning to realize that I dont think he can help this. I also think it may be coupled with PTSD as he was German Air Force Special Ops, and saw some horrendous things during the war in Somalia. I want to begin researching it a bit and see if there is any correlation between the two. But in the meantime, although I am detaching, and have worked very hard setting boundaries, my ultimate goal is still to hope and have faith that he and I will come through this. I have no expectations of him right now, and know that I have to find strength within myself and the people who surround me. But that, by no means, makes me want to give up.
Today is not the day.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
((((((Lola)))))) You are doing the right thing for you. No matter what they said. I think it takes a special person to wait for an MLCer to come back. Hmmmmm, I guess Lola is a special person!
I don't know if I would go that far! I am just a woman who loves her husband very much.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I also think it may be coupled with PTSD as he was German Air Force Special Ops, and saw some horrendous things during the war in Somalia. I want to begin researching it a bit and see if there is any correlation between the two.
Lola, I'm not sure if you were looking for a correlation between PTSD and MLC, but, even if he doesn't have PTSD, different people handle those kinds of things quite differently. Being it Texas, you should be able to find someone who has been working with US soldiers and gain some insights that might be useful.
