Theo's Interesting Divorce-Busting themed films- 2

[hoosiermama]

Karen,

Well vitually all of the men's relationship manuals paint the same picture. When a man loses his sense of mission in life and self-esteem, it forces his wife to make up for that in the relationship and masculinize herself, which de-polarizes their sexuality and, hence reduces the attraction.

My wife told me once, that when I don't respect myself and value myself, she feels compelled to treat me like sh*t.

Act like a doormat and people will treat you that way.

--Theoden

Well, this is an enlightening thought. My situation is different in that I got left, and H never lacked for self-esteem, but he definitely didn't take a role of responsibility in the marriage, which forced me to, which set up a whole different dynamic. I always felt like his mother in a way, which didn't make me feel like his lover for sure.

And I'm here to testify--folk will kick you when you're down, they will walk on you if you act--or even feel--like a doormat. It's the way you carry yourself, or the vibes you send out--the subtle body language we're not even aware of.