My H called yesterday afternoon. He angry and told me he would have someone take over his payroll for me and he asked if I was going to file. I told him that isn't what I want. I kept trying to explain to him why I am so frustrated by what he did and he just could not hear what I was saying to him. He kept trying to justify why he did what he did and why he thought I was upset. I finally thought since he couldn't understand me, then the C might be able to get him to understand...so I asked him to meet me at C after all. He did show up and I don't know how many times the C and I had to explain to my H that I was bothered by him making plans to leave town for Christmas without discussing it with me because it was not the action of someone trying to work on their M. He finally got it. After that the C told us that we were both hurt and reacted to everything. We tried to work through most of that.
After C, my H told me he showed up there because he isn't ready to let me go. Surprisingly, we went and got dinner after that. At dinner, I showed my H a list of expectations that I have if we move back in together. The C told us to do this several weeks ago but my H hasn't put a list together. My H talked about my list and we went back and forth trying to figure out solutions on how to handle finances...there are big issues to resolve there. Is this progress???
Before we left each other, we both apologized for reacting to the situation. I have hopes that my H did finally hear what I was saying to him. Today I am feeling a little more reassured that my H doesn't want to let me go...I guess it is another small step showing me that he DOES want to be with me...it is sometimes just so difficult for him to make those steps.
