Signs to say WAW woke up?

[dday101798]

Well, another night another failed conversation.

We had to speak over the kids again, we're both losing ground with them. W propses the idea that instead of us spliting them for alternating weeks, we should switch up to one of us having both for alternating weeks. This to me seems worse. That is alienating a parent for enitre 7 days, and also exposes them to OM the same.

W again sparked that she wants to be "civil" and work on friendship building in hopes of resoting a possible R. Again, as delightful as that sounds and I would be more than happy to say the practice has already begun, it can not be taken seriously with OM in the picture.

That then sparked her blame factor again and I felt pushed and disrespected once again. She continues to live in the past o fwhich I tell her that is done. But, she still continued to point out every thing I've ever done wrong to which I agree to the what I accepted and chalked up to what I didn't I did my best validating to date. What a backfire, that left me feeling that I am/was a horrible H and father and don't deserve her back and ended the conversation. She Immediately texted a apology to which I accepted and let her know I was done for the night.

I just simply can't accept the blame for her and OM. She is the one that decided to hop into a R with him. She says she's doing it to get back at me. Well, mission accomplished in abundance.

I think our conversations are still going to keep going around in the same vicious circle for some time. I am doing my best not to get upset and mouthy with her, and didn't do so last night, so at least that shows major improvement and effort on my part. Hell, I didn't even result to my old gloom and doom practice of blasting music and drinking myself to sleep after a blow out conversation, now that's progress! Progress on all sides, mainly in the fact that we aplolgize immediately instead of letting ti fester and carry into the next attemp to talk.

I'm thinking of inviting her and our other son that with her this week to meet me and mine for the week out for dinner tomorrow to discuss this new plan of hers as a group. I'm thinking that if we try this, we shoul meet for dinner or something at least twice a week (Wed &Fri) so as not to cut the other parent out entirely for that long of time. This will also give us an excuse to attempt this civil relationship.

Any ideas, suggestions? Amy??? I really appreciate your imput now matter how it comes off.