I don't recognize her anymore

[faithisbelieving]

There is not much to post anymore. There is nothing left but ashes. My STBXW is the one now to initiate 'instability'. I try to keep to myself and interact as little as possible. I try to maintain my boundaries. It is difficult. My W corrals the kids still, at times, and now throws her weight around as the MegaMom. When she is megaparenting, I will not try and force my way in. I will read a book or turn on the news. I let the kids come to me when they want me when she is in this mode.

After having the kids for the day and returning home at 830P on Sunday:

W: C'mon kids, time to go to bed.
Me: XXX...they just got in...they can spend a few minutes with me.
W: It's late and it's bedtime. C'mon kids..let's go.

(D5 starts to cry and cling to me)

Me: XXX...they can stay down here for a few minutes. If they fall asleep, I will carry them upstairs
W: You let S8 sleep down here the other night.
Me: He came down.
W: I checked 3 times in the middle of the night

(this is my W now trying to turn things back onto me as she has slept with both kids NIGHTLY)

Me: Sorry XXX but I pulled my back the other night and I couldn't carry him up. He was tucked in, blanketed and comfortable.

W: You're undermining me as a parent (said in front of the kids)
Me: (to the kids)...it's OK to stay with daddy for a few minutes. We always try and treat people with respect.

(W storms upstairs)

My boundary: the kids wanted to see me after a long drive home. She can't take that away from me.

FIB