thanks so much for the post... I needed it and you are right.. funny how our emotions drive us and then it drives me crazy because usually if I wait it out long enough I don't feel the same way or want to react the same to him so I do need to distance myself ....
he has been out and dating her freely for only 5 1/2 weeks now so he is in the fun stages... you are right b/c I am still having too much contact and expectations I am losing love units and starting to Hate... although I do know deep down I love this man just not the man I have been faced with the last 2 months.
I can't imagine being where you are ever and it is encouraging... I would feel the same way as you.. at least you are getting part of him and as long as your H is with you he can't be giving his whole heart to OW .... as I had asked.. do you guys talk about your R? does he say anything about what is happening?
Great advice and I need to start printing out things so when I'm feeling down or emotional I can re-read....
My H is taking our girls for the first time to his new apartment this Friday night ... I'm feeling very anxious and sad but I know he needs to start living like a D man since this is what he wants, or so he thinks, ..... I will be waking up in our house with no kids for the first time and thought this would never happen under these circumstances. I need to re-read love bank... I am reading Surviving an Affair and did the quiz already... just have had too many disappointments for me to do a plan A right now... but I do need to depoist some love units and keep things pleasant as I can right now..
more later.. thanks for your thoughts.
Me: 38/H:40 M:7yrs TG: 10yrs 2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old Bomb 8/22/08 OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old Moved out 9/22/08
