New Me - Will WAW ever notice?

[Kakatal]

Stopped at store on way home to buy cake & candles for D9 birthday celebration. Walk into house & w asks what's for dinner? I suggest pizza - ok with kids. W niece who's room she has taken over is visiting D9. I go out to buy 2 pizzas & return. Everyone eats, little chit chat with w. Cake & singing. Present time. W tells me she didn't have $$$ to buy anything for D9. I said I will just tell her my present is from all of us.

D9 opens all the cards & reads them aloud. I let her open mine last since I had poured my heart into it. Had to focus to hold back tears. What i wrote:

"D, I am so very grateful to have you as my daughter. Your smile brightens my day and your hugs fill my heart with love. I appreciate all the help you give me around the house. Hope you enjoy the gift - you deserve it! Have a great birthday . You will always be my sweetie pie. Love you with all my heart, Dad."

Got a huge hug & kiss from my D. Just looked at w & smiled. Bought her a Nintendo DS which she was begging for. Then kids went back to playing with each other, leaving w & I to sit in living room alone.

W starts talking about her job - hours, what to do with kids if she needs to go in early, etc. She had mentioned previous day about wanting to read the 4 books that make up the plot for the upcoming movie Twilight before the movie comes out. Had read 2 of the 4 in past 3 days - 800 pages each. I asked if she had bought the 3rd one but she hadn't - was hoping her cousin would buy the final 2 & then she could read them.

I told her I had read the best relationship book yet - LL - and if she wanted she could borrow it. W asked what it was about. Gave her a brief description - That after the euphoria of love wanes, one needs to figure out what it is that helps your spouse feel loved. Told her there was an exam at the back to help pinpoint what your LL was. W said she thought the book should be used to figure out what your partner's LL is. I said that was true, but also it helped one identify their own LL. If you know your own LL, you can then tell your spouse what they need to do in order to fulfill it.

Told her I thought I knew what hers was - Words of Affirmation. Said that I had always tried to buy her Gifts but that obviously didn't work. She said she thought Words were just a part of the big picture - appreciation, friendship. I agreed with her assessment & just reiterated that everyone needs pieces from all 5 but that if your primary is not being met, you will become disenfranchised with the m.

Told her best part of the book was the final chapter about how you can find the LL of your children. If you can find that your kids will grow up feeling loved by you. I felt that made the book so worth reading.

W then had to leave to bring her niece to her aunt's house. Asks me if she can have the book to read. I give her the book & she comments 'Mens Edition" - what's that all about. I explain it has suggestions at end of each LL chapter for the men who don't get it - all while smiling. Show her the exam at end & suggest she take it first so as not to bias her answers after reading the book. Rub her shoulder & arm & say thanks for coming. She thanked me for pizza & cake, kisses kids bye & will be back in morning.

Looking forward to a bit of a discussion about the book :-) All in all another good day for me. Like I started this thread, goal was more positive than negative posts!