2008 = Crazy Year (Screwed up 16)

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Nope. Stand your ground. I get a sense that you're wearing her out.

[lost_in_space]

Puppy, one more. Would you contact OMW given latest finding?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Puppy, one more. Would you contact OMW given latest finding?

If it were me, I would contact OMW irrespective of the latest finding.

She has a right to know.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

In other words, I would ramp up BOTH the exposure, AND the acts of loving kindness.

Where did she tell you she was last week again?

[lost_in_space]

She was in phoenix at our vacation property. She obviously saw OM on way home.

I never did know her itinerary.

[whatdidido]

I'm sorry, lis. I would bet he stayed with her at the property or she never went to the property. THat weekend she was with him the whole time.....I would bet money on it.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

LIS,

Simultaneous to exposing to OM's wife, if you decide to do that (and whether or NOT you decide to do that), you need to take the note, complete with the date stamp on the envelope. Not a copy, but the ORIGINAL.

Simply take it.

Your wife will be in no position to ask you if you have it, without revealing her little secret. Let her panic when she suddenly can't find it.

During my sitch with my wife last summer, at one point I found that she had photocopied my prescriptions -- the anti-depressants. So I took them, from her purse. She of course couldn't say anything.

A week or so later, I snooped her underwear drawer and found that this time, she had HANDWRITTEN -- in her own handwriting -- what my prescriptions are.

Pretty damning evidence, especially when it's in your own handwriting and has your fingerprints on it.

I took that too.

She couldn't (and didn't) say anything.

A day or so later, I printed out some stuff from the internet about how taking someone's personal medical information without their consent is a federal felony, under the HPAA code. I left that out on the kitchen counter, for her to find, which she did.

Again, she never said anything. But boy, was she ever PANICKED!!!

Puppy

[lost_in_space]

(((wdid)))

She was there. He may have been too.

I am not devastated. Just angry. Angry at the lies and deceit. Angry that our K's mom is not being truthful and lying to everyone.

I will take time to calm myself before figuring out next move... except I think for sending e-mail to omw. I think she needs to know, if they are still together.

[kat727]

I think you will do so much better keeping a level head. You have the evidence, keep it somewhere that she can not get it. I would expose fully to OM's wife. Not to cause her pain but keep her up to speed. She has some choices to make too.

Maybe you could make the couch up for her before she even gets home some night. That might shake her up a bit.

kat

[lost_in_space]

(((kat)))

She is already sleeping in D11's bed. No worries there. She has kicked D11 to the couch!

I am not reacting. Will have a glass of wine shortly. Focus is the key now.