Lots of anger and seemingly shots at each other. Truth darts she needs to hear, yes, but she is taking them differently. Perhaps do something loving once a day throughout this whole journey. KEep doing what you are doing, but add something loving each day as well....not sarcastic loving, just pure loving action.
I like this idea. During my wife's wayward period, I tried to do 2-3 of these a week. Things like covering her up with a blanket when she fell asleep on the couch, or pulling her car in the gargage for her at night -- just simple loving gestures. Nothing mushy or romantic, though.