personally I am against driving when pissed off!!! I have been where you are a couple times....not with a letter but other stuff. One went bad because I reacted immediately....the other made my wife CRY about 4 days later....because I made a calm choice.
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Sorry for finding that. I go with the 48 hour rule and try to think things out before making a decision. Don't let the anger get the best of you, as hard as it can be sometimes.
Had a 18yo a couple months that lost his gf. He went to her house and shot her and a couple other people. Now he will spend most of his adult life in prison. They all lived. Seen it happen to many times. Momentary pleasure does not work for the long term.
The other day I saw the OM out in his yard. I wanted so bad to pull in and beat his a$$. Not worth it in the long run. Although it would have been fun for the moment.
Take care of yourself and don't let it all eat you alive.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Lots of anger and seemingly shots at each other. Truth darts she needs to hear, yes, but she is taking them differently. Perhaps do something loving once a day throughout this whole journey. KEep doing what you are doing, but add something loving each day as well....not sarcastic loving, just pure loving action.
I like this idea. During my wife's wayward period, I tried to do 2-3 of these a week. Things like covering her up with a blanket when she fell asleep on the couch, or pulling her car in the gargage for her at night -- just simple loving gestures. Nothing mushy or romantic, though.
